Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Interview with 11 year old on summer reading.....

Me:   So, James, you had a goal to read 20 books this summer.  You did it!  Was it easy?

James:  Not easy, nope, not that.

Me:  What was your favorite book?

James:  Well, it is a tie between Eragon and Guardians of Ga'Hoole.  But, I liked them all, really.

Me:  Why did you like these two the most?

James: I loved Eragon for the amazing swordfighting.  Paolini did such a great job describing the action.  It was powerful.  The Guardians of Ga'Hoole featured owls with metal talons (which were forged in blacksmith's volcanoes).  I was in awe of these talons !

Me:  Did you miss anything in the hours you spent reading this summer?

James:  A few meals, I guess, but not much else.

Me:  Did you  need to be reminded of the goal ... to read 20 books.

James:  I did.  I guess I got reminded alot, even though I liked reading ALL of these books.

Me:  Were the reminders useful?

James: Those were reminders?  I thought they were threats.  Ehhh....if you didn't keep telling me, I probably wouldn't have met the goal.

*sits quietly for a minute*

James:  Mom.....ya know what Yogi Berra said?

Me:  No, what did he say?

James:  "If you don't know where you are going, you'll end up someplace else."

Me:  Hmmmm....

James:  Yeah, so I guess I'm glad that I knew where I was going this summer .... with books, that is.

James:  while attempting to put both feet behind his head....Thanks, mom.  I read 20 books this summer, didn't I?

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Laberee Leavings and Landings

My husband can always tell when I am on overload because I cling more compulsively to my tattered three-ring binder.  It is an ugly thing, but it has served me faithfully for several years as Calendar Command Central and repository of all papers-deemed-important.    Yeah, yeah, I use Google Calendar, too, but only because those little reminder pings on my phone make me feel important.  But, this binder ….. ah, it has the power of a pacifier AND a personality supplement while creating the illusion of control.  Very nice.

Well, summer has arrived and my binder bears coffee rings almost as dark as the circles under my eyes.  There is something deeply warped about a life where summer presents more challenges than a school year for a homeschool mom.

With motion discomfort bags tucked discreetly in my purse …. it begins:

John:    After yet another 4.0 semester at Penn, he will move into an apartment in NYC next week.  He will be working at two different start-up companies in Manhattan.  As soon as he finishes his projects there, he gets on a plane for Moscow where he will spend the first semester of his junior year !  We are all so proud of this guy ....

Nora:  After returning from Hungary, she got a job at a Philadelphia law firm to earn the money to go back to Europe this summer.  In two weeks she departs for Germany and Hungary to spend a month visiting friends.  The musical festival in Hungary will be the highlight of this trip!  Upon return she will catch her breath and move into Penn.  But, first, she graduates !!  And the truth is …..I don’t want it to end.  Homeschooling this gem has been such a blast, I’d cheerfully do it all over again.

Andy:  After summer rowing, he is Nicaragua-bound!  He has been placed with a host family and he is brushing up on his preterites.  While eager to leap into Spanish immersion, all he talks about is exploring the Mombacho volcano and catching a bull shark with his bare hands in Lake Nicaragua!  Did I mention the source of my grey hair?  This young man goes for the gusto!


James:   This guy will be chillin’ at day camp.  Wisely, he has accepted my Summer 20 Book Challenge (like he had a choice).  The deal? He gets his Kindle for an hour a night as long as he’s plowing through this Challenge. His counter-offer:  As soon as I finish reading them all, I will get my Kindle for 3 hours a night, ok?”  Hmm……

Before the end of August Peter and I will have been twice to JFK Airport, twice to Dulles Airport and twice to Newark Airport.  The Laberees will be spread out over different continents with too many time zones differences to track.  When September comes I know I will be so very glad to see it and to settle into the rhythm of Autumn and school books and falling leaves.   Slipping into a school year is like donning a familiar all-weather coat that feels just right all of the time.  But summers?  They are for the moonstruck howlings of a homeschool mom on hold.


Wednesday, April 30, 2014

My Middle School Math Salvation

It only took ten years, but I finally found a tool for my homeschool which has redeemed the daily middle school math lesson.  Yeah...I'm the slow student!  I've been doing middle school math for 10 years.  That's right, I am on student #4 and now....NOW, I find this little miracle.

My soon-to-be-middle schooler has had this singular problem with his math:  He can't keep the numbers lined up and so he can't get the right answers.  It takes patience and a steady eye and hand to work through 4721.005839 divided by 76.985 in an orderly enough way to get the right answer. This is his weakness.  It affects every area of his math.

I tried many things.  I have drawn vertical lines on his copybooks.  I have tried standard graph paper.  I also tried printing out larger graph paper, but that just added another delay to getting on with the daily math lesson and I could never keep track of the loose papers.

This product below has made ALL of the difference in the world.  We've been using this copybook for a week now and a magical transformation has occurred !

Because the graph squares are 1/2" he can space out the numbers properly.  (He could not do this with standard graph paper - the cells were too small.)   Because it is a copybook, his daily work is not strewn all over the house and he can easily refer back to a problem he did a few days before for reference.

The greatest outcome has been with attitude - both his and mine!  He feels so good about getting the answers right and I can finally heap on the praise.  He's always been able to understand the math but dysgraphia has made it very difficult for him to get the answers right.  He just couldn't line things up.

What a difference this had made!

We finished Singapore 6 in March and I was planning to repeat it next year.  While he fully understood everything we did in Singapore 6, he still got the answers to so many problems wrong. I thought repeating the curriculum was best, but I was wrong.   The problem has been his inability to line up the numbers and this new copybook proved it.   We've moved on to Pre-Algebra and it is going swimmingly well all because of this discovery of a 1/2 " graph paper copybook.

Today, I actually looked forward to our daily math lesson.  Afterward, he was beaming. 


If you have math mishaps of the type described above, maybe this tool can help you?

Peace !

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

The Congressional Award Program for Youth

Have you ever wondered how you can get your teen recognition for doing good things, even if these things don't include finding a cure for cancer, developing a new technology, or writing a NYT best seller before the age of 16 ?

Then you should check out The Congressional Award Program.


Two of my kids did this program and received the Congressional Gold Award.  This included ceremonies in DC, meetings with senators and congressmen, internship opportunities, and membership in a community of youth who are on the road to success.  My 3rd teen is in the middle of earning this award now.  The youngest eagerly awaits his turn.

Students must be 13.5 years old to begin.  Enrollment costs $15.   It takes a minimum of 24 months to complete the program.  The good news is that most of what a student needs to do to earn the Gold Award falls into the category of stuff they are probably already doing.

To achieve the Gold, a student needs to log 200 hours of physical fitness, 200 hours of personal development, 400 hours of community service and a few days and nights away from home immersed in a culture different than his own. (You do not have to go far; you just have to do something that challenges you.)

This program really does teach a teen how to set goals and stick to them.  At a time when so many outstanding teens maneuver to check all of the boxes for extraordinary (and somewhat clich├ęd) activities on their march toward acceptance to the universities for the best and the brightest, this program focuses on the straightforward work of sticking to some goals over a period of a few years.

The other students we met at the award ceremonies were all stand-outs and most of them were actually headed to good schools.  No surprise - it turns out that a kid who hangs in there, working on goals over a long period, also has what it takes to gain entry to his top choice school.  But the Congressional Award Program is not an achievement test.  Top grades are not uncommon among the candidates, but they are by no means required to earn the Gold Award.  What a teen does need to get the Gold Award is sincerity and resolve.

                                 Here's John getting his gold medal in 2011 from the only
                                 Congressman who can make him (John) look short (!)

Below is Nora getting her gold medal in 2013!

Saturday, April 12, 2014

Homeschooler's Guide to the Middle School Galaxy

This post is for the many, many homeschool families who ask me about the middle school years and how best to prepare for high school when a competitive college admission is the ultimate goal.

I've met many parents of middle school students who feel stranded.  They want to be prepared for the high school years that are skulking around the corner.  They want to get this right, but they're unsure.   School administrators, grandparents, and well-meaning friends offer  "do this, do that" sound bites.  But, inertia and uncertainty prevail.

There are two distinct phases of home education, after the elementary years wind down: The Interrogatory Phase (middle school) and the Execution Phase (high school).

It is in the Interrogatory Phase that you learn what you will be doing in the Execution Phase.  The Execution Phase is a terribly busy time and as the name implies, you are putting into action all of the plans you made in the late middle school years.  If you wait until high school to ask the important questions, you will find yourself bogged down, confused, and feeling rather ineffective.

What happens in the Interrogatory Phase other than school?

                                                         Figure out your kid

What does my student love best and where does he/she excel?   For example:  Does she like to build things?  Is he quick with his math?  Does she read above grade level?  Can he write better than most boys his age?  Do topics in science, music, art, or history hold her attention more?

It might seem like a lot to know about your student but if you pay close attention to your days, the answers are there.  Your goal is to get an academic lock on your student and know his strengths, weaknesses, and special interests.  Pay attention to your student's skill set and talents.  These are the headwaters from which good things can flow.


For an objective "stock-taking", you'll need to test. I am not a big advocate of testing, especially in elementary school, but by middle school you really need to get a fix on how your student measures up against the general population.  We are not very good scorekeepers for our own kids.

(There are many online resources for testing your student in the privacy of your home, if you prefer.  A google search will reap a harvest of them.) 

1.  You can have your older middle school student take the PSAT or the SAT.  Scores prior to 9th grade are purged - no one but you will ever see them.  You don't have to get upset with low scores here because you will adjust down for his/her age.  For example, if your 7th grade student has an SAT math score of 500 - you should be very encouraged; that is quite good for that grade level.

2.  There is also a test called the SSAT (not administered by the College Board).  The SSAT is similar in shape to the SAT, is geared toward the middle school student, and it will give you a projected SAT score, depending on the age of your student when he takes this test.  The SSAT is a personal favorite of mine.

What does this testing accomplish?
1. You will have a reality check.
2. You will know where you need to concentrate your efforts.
3. If your student has real strength in one area, it will be revealed and you may have a ticket to gifted learning programs.
4. Since all of these achievement exams are (at minimum) 3 hours long, your student will know ahead of time what it feels like to sit through this endurance test.  Better your kid do this before it counts than do it for the first time when it really does count.


Is my student ready for high school?  Is he ready to work hard?  Does she know how to manage her time?  Does he know why he needs to do all of this work?  Are we on the same page?    

Most students do not know what they want to do with their lives.  But, they should still have goals. Without goals, how will you get them to study into the late hours of the night and on weekends when that time/need arrives.  It is very hard to push a kid who does not have a shared vision of excellence and achievement.  To instill this desire in your student, he must see the goal(s).  You should do college tours.  It might sound foolish to traipse across the campus of Columbia University with a middle school student - it is not.  Pick a beautiful day, travel without time constraint on a day when classes are in session, jump in to an organized tour or just walk the campus and hang in the nearby eateries to get a sense of the intellectual energy and excitement that you will find everywhere.   If you can get your student excited about attending ONE college, ANY college, then you are on the "go" square of the game board.  You can build goals from there.  Without this, you will find yourself parroting admonitions which will fall on deaf ears.  A student needs a tangible goal, especially if no particular career goal is present.  Invest in your student's enthusiasm.

Does my middle school student even KNOW what hard work looks like?

This is critically important.  Your daughter might view 20 math problems per week as punitive.  Your son might think that a weekly 250 word essay is pure torture.  Most middle school students need to calibrate what they think is hard work to what hard work actually is. They need good models.  Middle school students who want to land in a competitive college need to meet other students with similar goals..  Your job is to find them. The homeschool community is filled with success stories.  Find the families who have high-achieving kids.  Ask them what they did.   If your 12 year old son or daughter sits down with a 21 year old who has a proven academic track record and they hear it straight from the source, they will never forget it.  It is golden.
To find peers, try to get your middle school student into one high-achieving program, whether online or through your local community.

                                                        From Ideas to Action Plans

During the Interrogatory Phase of the middle school years you should try out different things.  This takes time but it is worth it.   If math seems to come easy, find a math club.  If your student loves science, do science fairs.  If writing is at the top of the list, find contests and competitions to enter.  Your goal is to get some traction.  Once that happens you will see real progress. Advice for mom - get on numerous homeschool discussion loops and scour the digests from these groups nightly.  This is how you learn about cool, local opportunities.  You will  have to make a regular investment of time to do this research.  Here is a terrific website with lists and lists of competitions in science, art, history, math, computers and writing. A good place to start -  http://cty.jhu.edu/imagine/resources/competitions/index.html
This list includes a good number of competitions for middle school students.

If a student is preparing to compete for something  - anything - he will be more focused.  Then you (mom) can reverse-engineer your school year around this event.  Big events like these actually ADD structure to your year.

                                                           Plan, Plan, Plan Some More

Once you have gathered up activities, events and competitions, you are one easy step away from creating a calendar for the year with clear goals mapped out.  Keep going with this.  Do a hypothetical 4-year high school plan.  Involve your middle school student in this.    Of course, this plan is going to morph.  But if you have no plan at all, you are bound to fall short of a high standard.

                                                                Broaden Horizons

A desire to achieve and the determination to do hard things  won't come out of thin air.  You need to nurture it.  There are wonderful educational events run by Learning Unlimited throughout the year.  Middle school students can take exciting classes on the campuses of some of the best universities in the country for as little as $30 for a full weekend of amazing courses.  No grades are given.  University students volunteer to teach. Often a middle school student discovers an entire field of science or language they did not even know existed. Inspiration is everywhere.  Do this!  Do it as often as you can.
http://www.learningu.org/current-programs  Get on the mailing list.  Have it on your calendar.  The MIT and Yale programs are especially good.

                                                                Your Leadership

Many years ago a homeschool family asked to meet with me.  Mom and dad could not get their kids to read books. They wanted advice.  Most home educating families know that in order to be poised for the academic world kids need to read  - a lot.  They need to read hard stuff and they need to read often.  These parents were worried.  Their kids did not have dyslexia or ADHD. They were neurotypical kids.  "Why can't we get them to read?" they lamented.    I asked them what they (mom and dad) were currently reading, looking high and low for a sign of books.  "We don't read, we don't have time for it."  Hmm.

The prescription is simple.  Kids will read more if you have a set reading time and lead by example.  Kids will also read in the absence of other forms of entertainment and if most table top surfaces hold a small stack of interesting books.

If your middle school kids are glued to glowing rectangles, have technology free hours built into the day and have good books ready to fill the gap.  It is harder now than it ever was before to encourage kids to read books.  The glowing screens hold far more appeal.  We cannot extricate ourselves from these devices entirely but we can claim back a few hours a day - this is a reasonable goal.  Lead the way on this.

                                               ~          ~          ~          ~          ~          ~

The middle school years are a period of intense mentorship.  It is during these years that you can establish that you and your student are on the same team.  The road to excellence is arduous, but it is made easier when the prize is clear, the goals are reasonable, and your leadership is obvious. You got this !   Godspeed !

Friday, January 17, 2014

Ruminations and Approbations at Labereeland

2013.  How sweet it was.  And a little bit crazy, too. 

It was a high octane year in which the Laberees marked off one wild, blustering week after another, events carrying us in waves to and from many good things.

John -  Active in the International Affairs Club, Model UN,  The Memory Team, and the Russian Club at Penn.  Visited Russia and caught up with old friends.  Rowed varsity this past Fall for Penn.  Straight A’s!  This Spring - rugby (yikes).    Planning to study abroad in Fall 2014.  Destination:  Russia !

Nora – An international science fair, an environmental science scholarship to study in Malaysia and Singapore, a US Congressional Gold Award, and a six month study abroad program in Hungary.  Admission to UPenn class of 2018!

Andy – Admission to Stanford University’s online high school, science study at Brown University, rowing, staff writer for the National Junior Statement (civics, current events, political activism), and, most recently,  awarded a pre-college grant from Johns Hopkins for STEM research project !

James – Top scores in National Mythology Exam and Latin Exploratory Exam, read 71 (yes, 71) books (!!), improved his chess game, and learned to golf.  He also learned Scratch programming ....see if you can get all six Laberees to slip on bananas in this, his favorite creation:  http://scratch.mit.edu/projects/14213924/

Mom and Dad – Peter finally accepted the fact that his hair is not going to grow back and I went completely gray.  We planned a year end vacation to New Hampshire, which, considering the fact that we are both vacationphobic, ranks up there with ironman competitions.   The vacation, which took years to pull off, was perfect.    Labereelaw is busy, busy, busy and Labereeland is feeling absolutely blessed.

2014 - We are already careening crazily through the weeks of what promises to be another exciting year.   

Blessings to you and your families and best wishes for your dreams to come true in 2014.